Manage your anger before it takes over your life.
Well done. You have taken a very important step in addressing your anger issues. Not an easy step, but let me assure you it is the correct step for you at this time. Can I tell you that it takes courage to accept that there is an anger problem. You’re well on the way to a healthier lifestyle.
Anger is a normal, healthy emotion. When it is expressed appropriately you are letting go of the stress and frustration that you are experiencing, and those around you understand and accept that you are upset. When anger is expressed inappropriately with blame and aggression it can be a destructive force- both to the person experiencing it and for those subjected to it.
As with other things that are negative, there is a tendency to hold something or someone else responsible. When you hold someone else responsible for your stress, anxiety, or frustration you feel that you have the right to express this in an aggressive manner. This is because you feel out of control, unable to understand why you are feeling the way you do. When we feel out of control it is easier to blame others and not take responsibility for ourselves. When you express your anger aggressively you are pushing people away from you. Aggression does not help with working through the problem.